gay secrets

I have a question about being gay with straight people.
To start with, let me tell you what I have learned about gays and lesbians who are out and open about their sexuality. Correct me, please, if I’m wrong.
· Homosexuals are people who happen to have same sex attractions.
· While there are some well earned stereotypes, there is a huge range of behaviors, mannerisms, preferences, taste, and attitude among the homosexual population.
· It is difficult to be openly gay/lesbian in our society, especially outside of large metropolitan areas.
· A lot of people, individually and in organized groups, hate and/or fear homosexuals. (These people are either ignorant or idiots)
· Gays and lesbians have been and are being hurt both physically and emotionally as the result of this homophobia.
· There is no devious homosexual agenda. The only devious agenda I see is the right wing groups, typically religious, who try to deny certain inalienable* rights to those with same sex attractions.
· Homosexuals want to be treated like normal human beings in the course of everyday life. Because they are. Duh.
There is more, but that’s what I came up with off the top of my head just now.
Probably in large part because of the societal alienation (not alien nation. That’s in Roswell) there is camaraderie among gays and lesbians. Sort of like an exclusive club. While not exactly members of the club, there are heterosexuals who are friendly to the group. People who have close friends who, by the way, are gay. Not necessarily people who say “some of my friends are gay” when trying to impress someone. Those people are either ignorant or idiots. But I digress.
How does a gay person recognize an accepting straight person? I know about gaydar. I’m aware of certain social clues that indicate a person I meet might be gay or lesbian. How do they recognize me? What do I say or do or even look like to indicate an accepting attitude toward homosexuals?

*Someone should devise a tongue twister using the word “inalienable.” Or use it as a sobriety test.