"When we find ourselves believing that killing a man makes us more of a man but loving a man makes us less of a man, it's probably time to reexamine our criteria for manhood." Jay Smooth, from ill*doctrine.
Just found this on RG's blog. (NSFW) This guy sounds like he's got some good things to say. I haven't looked at anything else yet, I just found his site. I look forward to checking out more of his stuff though.