I have two items of bad news, and I'm not sure which one to share first. I'll tell you in the order Superman told me.
Our dog Ruby died. She was outside for her late evening constitutional and was evidently hit by a car. There are no obvious signs of blunt trauma on her body, but her neck appears to be broken. I think it was quick and relatively painless. She was an old girl, about 15, and in poor health. Her hearing and sight were just about gone, and the way she moved indicated she had arthritis. She has not been very comfortable for months now. This is an ugly way for her to go, but in a way I'm relieved she's out of her misery. It was soon going to be time to consider putting her down. The decision has been taken out of our hands now. May she rest in peace.
C is in jail tonight. What I heard was that he was riding in a car with two or three other friends and they were pulled over by law enforcement for speeding. One of the guys in the car had been smoking pot and the officer smelled it. So all of them were arrested and taken to the county lock-up. S said C hadn't been smoking pot, and he's probably telling the truth. The law in this state is written such that in these situations, everyone gets arrested. I don't know what will happen. S has gone to spend the night with one of his friends, and I think the friend's mother will take them down there tomorrow and see what can be done. I have no earthly idea what to do or think. I fear, though, that C will lose his state scholarship. We have an "education" lottery, and he is/was receiving scholarship money for at least part if not all of his tuition. I know that he could lose the scholarship, but don't know the law well enough (at all) to know the details of what exactly has to happen for it to be taken away. Does he need to be convicted? If so, of what? If he wasn't imbibing in the drug himself, what exactly can they arrest him for besides suspicion?
Anyway, there are a lot more questions than answers right now, and my brain is reeling from the onslaught of grievous news. That is all.
Saturday, August 30, 2008
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I'm so sorry about Ruby, my heart goes out to you Java!
C's potential problems are just more evidence of the draconian drug laws in this country.
Be well, or as well as you can be at the moment.
You poor poor darling.
I'm here if you need anything. If I can help, don't hesitate to reach out.
i am sorry to hear about your dog and your boy... i will definitely add you to my prayers.
I am also sorry about everything going on. Know that I will be thinking of you all today and praying things work out.
Oh, Java. What awful grief has visited you. Will the state appoint an attorney to each boy? There is probably a phone number or website you can access to find out more about process. C has made a stupid mistake, but the consequences will be enough punishment. Be there for him as best you can while you still take care of your family. He needs to know somebody cares.
The kids may need some special attention on how to process all of this. Losing the dog and missing C is so hard on an adult; the little ones need guidance and discussion. You might want to call their counselor on this one.
You've got a lot of support backing you up here in blogland, sweetie. Use that strength to pass on to your family. Prayers aplenty for all of you!
Java, I see the hand of divine providence in the car that liberated old Ruby... and possibly also upon the one, speeding and full of marijuana smoke, in which young C. was a passenger and was ultimately restrained.
Hope he's out and returned to your care today.
Many blessings on you and the family. For better days, for happiness, and for a lift in your spirits.
Thinking about you and your family right now - sending good energy your way. Brighter days ahead.
I'm sending thought your way.
Very sorry about Ruby. It's terrible to lose a member of the family like that.
Someone need to get C a lawyer and have them help him get out of this mess. Only a lawyer can help keep the boy's scholarship. The person who was actually smoking should fess up and absolve the others from their obvious problem. It could help down the road when this makes it to court. Usually, possession is not as serious a crime as selling it, so hopefully, the laws of your state are not so severe and unbending that it doesn't give anyone a chance. If C has no prior record, it will definitely help getting a lawyer on his side to represent him. You know there are no "Officer Friendlies" left and the officer's job is to make sure there is a conviction not mercy. Good luck.
( where is my "s" key, I know I depressed it. )
I'm sorry to hear that everything has turned to crap. It is so hard to lose a dog. They really are family members, and after 15 years you must be feeling pretty awful.
As for C.I hope that things work out for him. I think Butch is right about doing something about legal representation.
I will be thinking about you and yours and hoping everything works out.
So very sorry to hear about Ruby. Fate has a strange way of playing itself out. I have this theory that our pets know when they are ill and do not want to hurt our feelings. They think it's their job to take care of us. God rest her soul. If you get another pet name it "Slippers" in honor of Ruby.
Get C a lawyer and, perhaps, a drug test. Go to the grant administration site and get all the information you need in regard to his situation and the steps that he will need to take to clear his name and keep his scholarship.
Big hugs to you Sister Woman.
BTW: The Bauer people have found my blog and are in a snit over the photo!
So sorry about Ruby, but it's good it was a quick passing. I hope also that C doesn't lose his scholarship. Anti pot laws are ridiculous anyway, given the reverence we have for alcohol in this society.
indigo incarnates
I'm so sorry to hear about Ruby. She was such a sweet little critter. I liked her a whole bunch.
With any luck C will get a NP or Stet on the arrest, or even dropped charges. After all, he didn't have any drugs. the only thing he did wrong was having a terrible error in judgement.
At least it's not like in Baltimore City where the cops steal your ID and cash when you get arrested.
That's terrible. I think both things will turn out okay in the end. Please cheer up!
halo incarnates
will miss little dog. nice dog. tiny dog. will miss ruby-dog.
Oh no! So sorry Java to hear such sad and bad news! I'm sending you a mental *hug*! I hope everything works out for "C" and I hope it does not affect the scholarship, it would be sad to punish a young person for one mistake like this, it would be better for the state if he were to go ahead to school than to end his chances at this young of an age.
Dogs are just a really great animal and when one dies it hurts.
Oh my dear, I am so sorry. Losing a member of the family hurts, no matter how much we think it 'was time.' Don't be afraid to let yourself grieve for Ruby.
I know nothing about legal stuff, especially in your neck of the woods, but I should think that only a conviction would run the risk of losing C his scholarship. Fingers crossed.
I'm thinking of you.
So sorry to hear about Ruby. I do hope you can find the peace she must already know. Remember her best days fondly, facelicks and all. She watches over you now from a new vantage point.
Sending good wishes for the situation with C. Hope all works out well.
Oh my goodness, I am now just catching up, so sorry about Ruby. It is hard to lose an animal. They are such loyal friends. My heart is with you.
Sorry to hear about Ruby. It sounds like she had a long and happy life with your family. As much as it hurts when loved ones die, I try to think of it as the Universe's way of telling us it is unwise to think we can make things stay the same throughout life. Change is inevitable, and often a source of growth.
I'll cross my fingers that C doesn't loose his scholarship. I hope this situation will help him to rethink some decisions, like riding in a car with someone smoking pot. He's young. This is his time to learn.
Hugs,
Mark :-)
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